We watch our children grow right before our very eyes. It seems like yesterday they were a baby learning to crawl, walk, and feed themselves, and now they\’re in school, involved in activities, making friends, and learning to be more and more independent. Parents before us have said that from the time they\’re born, we are constantly learning to let go. As a result, our parenting strategies have to change. As our child grows, develops, learns, and matures, so does our parenting role.
As your child has grown, you undoubtedly have discovered they have their own unique personality and temperament. You\’ve probably unconsciously redeveloped your parenting skills around the individual needs of your child. And no two children are exactly alike, and therefore, neither should your parenting style.
Some children may need more guidance and feel more unsure of themselves, so we\’ve become used to having to guide, lead, show and encourage that child consistently through their childhood while still trying to encourage independence and give praise in order to build their self-esteem and confidence level. Yet another child may be very intrinsically motivated and very willful and not need a great deal of guidance or leadership from you. While you encourage their independence, it\’s also important that you also encourage their ability to ask for help when needed and continue to praise good deeds, actions, and traits.
The most crucial tools we have in order to effectively adjust our parenting knowledge are our eyes and our ears. We have to see what is happening with our kid and we should hear what they\’re telling us. It\’s essential that we encourage our kid to become their own individual while still being available to them at whatever level or degree they need us to be. Sometimes it\’s situation-specific as well. A child might not need us to be as directly involved with their schooling to ensure their overall academic success, however they may need us to become more involved in their social life as they may be feeling somewhat shaky or scared in terms of making new friends or meeting new people.
Therefore the point is this: as your kid grows and changes, so should your parenting knowledge. Keep your eyes and ears open and communicate honestly and freely with your kid, and you\’ll both mature gracefully.